Written by Camille Marie Mola
If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living. – Gail Sheehy
The inevitability of change is a universal truth. The seasons, attitudes, relationships, opinions, homes, jobs – they all change. Change can be good or bad, wanted or unwanted.
I view change in two ways – it’s either moving way too quickly and is happening all at once, or it’s moving at an extremely slow pace and I’m growing impatient. I’ve always struggled with this, as many other people do. And we all handle and cope with change in different ways. I know that college me would have handled it much differently than present-day me.
Worrying is part of my nature. I suppose it’s a self-defense mechanism – if I can picture every single negative and terrible outcome of a situation, I can better prepare myself. Perfect example: A few summers ago, my family was visiting me while I was interning in New York when they said they had some news to share. I immediately burst into tears in a restaurant, certain it was going to be horrific, terrible news, preparing myself for the worst. Turns out, it was really fantastic, awesome news (duh). As much as I love to try to consider myself a “go-with-the-flow” person, in most cases like the one above, I guess I’m not! And while my anxiety has dramatically improved since being first diagnosed many years ago, it’s still there lurking in the background.
It’s taken me years to learn how to handle change, and now I handle it better than I ever have before. I’ve learned to accept and acknowledge change – I can’t fight it, I can’t “change” the change. In the past, the more I tried to ignore or resist it, the worse it got. I have to release control of the change, appreciate the positives, and move forward.
This post is stemming from a lot of new adjustments in my life and my friends’ lives right now. And if there’s one thing I can tell anyone who is going off to university at the end of the summer and is freaking out – it’s that everything will be OK, this is only temporary. Please trust me on this – it’s the one thing I wish I could go back and tell myself.
If you’re going through your own transitional time and you’re not quite sure how you feel about it, remember that it will pass. Change can be good, and good things can and will happen. Continue to keep your focus and stay resilient – whatever you’re going through, know it won’t last forever. It’s usually during these times we learn the most about ourselves and become stronger versions of ourselves.
I feel as if I may have rambled through this entire post (and points to you if you didn’t cringe with how much I used the word ‘change’!”). So no matter what you’re going through, just repeat to yourself – “Everything will be OK, this is only temporary, and I’ve got this.”
Take care of yourself and be well. ❤